Unfortunately, men have a uniquely lousy reputation when handling romantic rejection (especially from women).


PHOTO | COURTESY Aman facing rejection

Whether it's an over-inflated sense of self or societal conditioning around the importance of romantic success, men's reactions to rejection can run the gamut from using harsh language on a Tinder match who doesn't respond fast enough to prolonged harassment, stalking, physical violence and even, in extreme cases, murder.

So why do men get so angry when it comes to being turned down?

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Some men make the terrible decision to react with violence or anger because they've misinterpreted what so-called rejection means.

They think that when someone rejects them, that person is saying, 'You're not enough. You're beneath me.

The best method of dealing with rejection is to say 'OK' and leave.

Move on. Any convincing or otherwise, even if not intended to be so, can come off as intimidating or aggressive. If someone says any version of 'no' or 'not interested,' it's not your job to convince people of your worth.

PHOTO | COURTESY The best method of dealing with rejection is to say 'OK' and leave.

As hard as it is, cut your losses, leave that scene and do what you need to do to cope with the pain of rejection, but not on that person's time.

Remember that dating options are abundant out there

Rejection can hurt a lot because a guy might feel he has few high-quality choices. But once you realize that you'll never run out of wonderful people to date and always have more to offer, you find confidence from inside of yourself, and you can brush off rejection and say.

 While that rejection feels horrible, know that it doesn't take away who you are. Being rejected by someone doesn't mean you're unlikable or unlovable; it just means you weren't a good fit for that person.

And remember Feeling a sense of sadness won't make you any less of a man. Don't swallow those emotions; allow yourself to deal with the rejection head-on.