Nurse Judy, a social media influencer and entrepreneur, has raised concerns about Alma Mutheu’s relationship choices, questioning why she would date a man who doesn’t align with her life goals, only to later publicly embarrass him. This critique comes after Alma and her boyfriend, Gift, were criticized following an interview that sparked intense scrutiny over their relationship. Judy, a mother of two, expressed her thoughts after an Instagram follower asked her to weigh in on the couple’s dynamic and the controversial interview that made waves online.
Judy started by acknowledging that everyone has different perspectives, and what might be off-putting to one person may not affect another in the same way. “I truly respect how each person views life, and we all have different points of view,” she said, adding that it’s okay for people to pursue what they want in relationships, even if it means seeking financial stability in a partner. She went on to emphasize, “If you want a rich man, that’s totally okay. No one gets an award for struggling, but there’s always another side to it.”
For Judy, however, the key is supporting your partner’s potential. She said, “As long as the man is trying, and you truly love him, you should support him and help him grow. If you see potential in him, why belittle him in front of everyone just because he's still at a phase where cost-sharing is part of the relationship? You likely knew that when you first dated him.”
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The media personality also shared that her own relationship had gone through phases of financial struggle, but they had persevered and thrived together. Her intention was to inspire others in similar situations to stay hopeful and motivated. She expressed disappointment in Alma’s decision to publicly shame her boyfriend, especially after showcasing a picture-perfect relationship online for months. “Why embarrass him publicly now when just a short time ago, you were posting couple goals pictures? It’s confusing to me,” Judy stated.
However, Judy was quick to clarify that she was not taking sides, as only the couple truly understands the complexities of their relationship. She acknowledged that it’s fine for Alma to feel frustrated, but criticized her for the public humiliation. Judy added, “I haven’t watched the full video, but I don’t think it’s right to tear someone down like that in front of so many people, especially when you’ve been so public about your love.”
In closing, Judy pointed to the role of social media in shaping unrealistic expectations, particularly among women. She argued that platforms often promote toxic ideals of empowerment, leading many to make irrational relationship choices. “I wish people would approach these matters rationally. Social media is affecting relationships, and we need to rethink what true empowerment really means," she concluded, reminding her followers that peace, love, and the results of hard work in relationships should always be the focus.
